For Parents.

 

For Parents

What to Do If

Students also have “Big Brothers and Sisters” from the Orientation Committee or a Resident Assistant that they might feel comfortable talking with. If the student is reluctant to contact the Dean or Counseling and Psychological Services, parents can tell their student that they will make the call and we will contact your offspring. If you call, we will reach out to your student and have him/her come in to talk with a counselor. Your student will be informed that you called and that you were very concerned for their safety.

If your child reports having an eating disorder, a drinking problem, or of being sexually assaulted (all of which are hard and sometimes traumatic for parents to hear), it is usually helpful to the student if his/her parents can listen, not judge, and be patient, understanding, and supportive. In any of these situations, parents can encourage their offspring to contact Counseling and Psychological Services.

In Summary…

  • Stay in contact with your offspring. Family and parental support are very important. Email, Snapchat, and text-messaging are useful as a supplement to voice communications. Hearing your voice with a phone call or video call is crucial to help your child feel your presence and support.
  • Don’t go behind your offspring’s back if there is a problem. Encourage your young adult to contact resources on campus. If you choose to contact, tell your offspring first.
  • Allow your young adult to work out their own problems and schedules and make their own decisions. Suggestions can be offered and encouragement given, but by allowing your offspring the opportunity to make their own choices, you indicate to them that you believe them to be an adult who is responsible, and capable.
  • It’s your thoughts that count. No matter what the problem, there is a solution or goal. Catastrophizing will do you in.
  • Psychological problems are usually of a developmental and/or situational nature, which we all experience. Most are remedied with a helping ear. Some need more help sorting out than others.
  • Severe psychological problems do occur and should not be ignored. There is help, here, for you and for your offspring, if such happens.
  • Going through orientation with flexibility, taking cues from your child, you will feel the deep satisfaction of having shared an important passage.