#DrewTheRightThing is a safe space for students to share personal Up-Stander stories (how they intervened to help another or how they stood up for themselves and got out of a risky situation).
Learn how to deal with the most high risk situations on campus, including alcohol, drugs and sexual assault.
At Drew University being an Up-Stander means positively impacting the community in a variety of ways, from helping someone find their way across campus to preventing a sexual assault or calling for help if a person is too intoxicated.
The goal for #DrewTheRightThing is to knock down the by-stander effect, build a stronger community and teach others’ how to act on their own behalf.
In one of the higher risk situations involving the use of alcohol and sexual assault, intoxication can blur the line between consensual sex and sexual assault or rape. In order to have more effective communication when it comes to giving and receiving consent watch for intoxication cues that may suggest someone is too drunk to consent to sex and know your own limits around alcohol and consent:
If you or someone you know has been sexually assaulted or would like to speak with someone about sexual assault, confidentially here a few resources on and off campus:
If you agree to follow the Up-Stander Pledge, you agree to be a pro-active member of the Drew Community. With this pledge, we encourage everyone to step up, when it is safe to do so. Don’t be confused, Up-Standing is NOT only used in situations with alcohol, drugs and/or sexual assault, anyone and everyone can be an Up-Stander in all different types of situations.
I recognize that a strong community is built on individuals taking ownership for their own actions and holding each other accountable for the values which guide our community.
I will do my best to be an active Up-Stander, a person who takes action, particularly when the easiest and most acceptable thing is to do nothing.
Share your own experiences and encourage others to be Up-Standers. These stories are submitted anonymously and not posted until all identifying information has been removed. Submissions are monitored by a member of the Counseling Center staff.
Peer Up-Stander stories from the forest:
** in a suite party **
Guy: i want you
Guy: wait, are you drunk right now?
Guy: oh never mind then **walks away**
One night my friends and I were out. One of our friends was pretty drunk and she started hanging out with a guy she did not know. After a while, he started to drag her to his room. She seemed pretty drunk, and he did not. I felt uncomfortable because, before tonight, this guy was a complete stranger. I looked to our other friends and they told me to let her go with the guy if that’s what she wanted to do. I couldn’t do it. I knew she was drunk, his intentions were concerning, and I knew this was not something she would do if she was sober. I went along with the two of them and went to the guys room. My friend and I were there for a while and in the end she left with me and luckily nothing happened. I was glad I trusted my instincts and watched out for my friend.
My freshman year I was hanging out with some friends in the T/B Lounge. I saw an intoxicated girl who could barely walk. Two guys were helping her walk back to her room and it left me feeling worried. My friends and I decided to go up to the intoxicated girl and act like we knew her. We separated her from the guys she was with. Then we got the RA on desk duty to call another RA and get her help. I’m glad we stepped in because who knows what could have happened that night.
I was walking into the commons for lunch during the week of the #LearnDon’tLabel campaign. Two girls were talking badly about the posters, saying that mental illness is just attention-seeking. I spoke up and told them it wasn’t right to judge. I was really upset about it, but it felt good to speak up for something that I think is important.
One Saturday night a friend of mine had been out at the suites drinking. I was in the hallway when he came back, I noticed right away that he looked really drunk and out of it. I was worried about him, I asked him if he was okay and he said that he was fine. I was still really worried though because he was stumbling and having issues holding a conversation. I told him to go to my room and gave him some water. I went to my RA on the floor and told her about the situation, and she stepped in. I’m glad I stepped in because my friend’s life could have been in danger.
All stories submitted are completely anonymous, and you will not be prompted for any further information.
Consider sharing your experience. How were you an Up-Stander? Did you step-in for a community member or did you advocate for yourself?
By telling your story, you can provide others’ with different ways to act as an Up-Stander and assert themselves.
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